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A Friend, Forever

1/25/2015

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I was leaving the movie theater Saturday night, checking my phone, when I noticed the text from my old friend and Brooklyn neighbor, Simon Brady. "Did you hear about Paul Needell?" he wrote. I knew right away what this had to be. And as inevitable as this news might have been, it took my breath away. It broke my heart. No one ever had a better friend than Paul Needell and few people, if any, would have as many friends say just that.
     It was small-world strange how the news that Paul had passed away, at 57, after a long struggle against an insidious disease would come from Simon.  After Paul married the beautiful Cathy Santiago on a magnificent Brooklyn day in 1988-- the wedding party hilariously introduced on tape by the legendary Bob Sheppard -- my wife, Beth, and I took a detour into the Heights to check out the coop we'd just bought, hoping to test drive our Honda through the narrow alley leading to a parking space in the back of the building. Simon happened to be outside as we pulled up to open the passageway. Turned out he and his wife had recently moved into the apartment above ours.
      All these years later, he would learn of Paul's passing before me because their sons were friends out on Long Island, in Rockville Centre.
      Paul and Cathy had three sons; Beth and I had two, and countless were the hours Paul and I spent bragging -- or ragging -- on them in press boxes,  on the phone, on long Facebook exchanges or during a visit to Paul's bedside during his final years when he fought with courage and grace that struck me as almost unfathomable. I could only wish there had been more time, more occasions. There isn't a worse commute in the New York area than New Jersey to Long Island but still, our families were always connected and forever will be.
       We were colleagues at the Daily News in the mid-1980s when Paul experienced a personal tragedy that induced early evidence of the cursed disease. After time off to recuperate, he went to a press conference that had something to do with the old United States Football League. That's where he first met and flirted with Cathy, who worked for the league and decided to do her homework on him. She called Beth, her former USFL colleague in the media relations department.
       "Oh, Harvey loves Paul," Beth said. "He's like the younger brother he never had."
       He was the kid reporter who had just graduated from the Nets beat to the Knicks when Gene Williams, the News' sports editor, talked me into joining the staff from the New York Post at the start of the 1982-83 season. Here is what Paul said when I told him how uneasy I was with bumping him back to the Nets: "It's great for the paper. It's great for me, too, because I get to work with you." He meant it, too, and that was Paul, who within a year was promoted to covering the Jets, a a beat the News considered even bigger than the Knicks. He proceeded to become the city's must-read on the Jets, as Rich Cimini beautifully recalled in two stories posted Sunday on the ESPNNY.com site.

http://espn.go.com/blog/new-york/jets/post/_/id/48861/paul-needell-longtime-jets-beat-writer-dead-at-57
http://espn.go.com/blog/new-york/jets/post/_/id/48845/sunday-notes-good-luck-chan-gailey-youll-need-it?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter

       So Cathy, reassured by Beth's endorsement, went out with Paul, they got married and one day, Beth and I were going through our own wedding album when we came upon another strange sighting. Paul and Cathy had both attended,  though seated at different tables. But in photos on opposite pages of the album, their faces were angled so that they seemed to be looking right at one another, as if peering into their future.
       Paul loved hearing that story as much as he relished telling his own. He was a damn fine storyteller, with humor, humanity and, above all, a sensitivity and selflessness so rare in the gritty business of tabloid journalism. During the five-month Daily News strike of 1990-91, with young mouths to feed and new mortgages to pay, we caved to the pressure one day and crossed a picket line. Sick to my stomach, I immediately regretted it and walked back out within a day or two. When he heard that I had, Paul called to say,  "If you're out again, I'm with you."
       No truer words spoken, my friend. You will be with me, always.
10 Comments
Peter Finney
1/25/2015 03:41:19 am

Thanks, Harvey.

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Harvey Araton
1/25/2015 05:39:09 am

A tough weekend, Peter, as you know...

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Peter Finney
1/25/2015 06:07:38 am

Have you heard anything on the arrangements?

Harvey Araton
1/25/2015 11:22:11 am

The memorial service will be held on Friday January 30 at 2pm at Gutterman's in Rockville Centre, NY:
175 N. Long Beach Road
Rockville Centre, NY 11570
516-764-9400.

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Bernie Santiago
1/26/2015 12:12:24 am

Thank you Harvey, for your special story about Paul. He was truly a great person, loved a respected by all who knew him. My sister and nephews are truly grateful for all the kind and acknowledging words posted by everyone. Definitely a sad time, but these memories will live on! Thanks again!!

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Harvey Araton
1/26/2015 08:54:18 am

Bernie,
Paul was a special person in so many lives, mostly, of course, his family's. And, yes, so many memories, including a great afternoon about 3 months ago when three of us (Howie Blatt, Dave Kaplan) drove out and just sat around, telling stories, as if we were all back at the Daily News during the 1980s. I will relish that day for a long time.

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John Delcos link
1/26/2015 08:38:00 am

Harvey: When I first moved to New York and began stringing, I was given the Jets' beat by the AP. Here I was, a stringer, and yet Paul was always gracious and supportive to me. He could have ignored me, but he was always asking if I needed anything. He and Peter Finney were both that way and I have never forgotten it. Paul was always a gentleman and I was saddened to hear of his passing. I don't know how to get in touch with his wife and kids, but I hope they take solace and comfort in their memories and the well wishes of so many who admired and respected him.

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Harvey Araton
1/26/2015 08:56:17 am

John,
that was Paul, all right. What he proved over and over was that a really good guy could also be a standout reporter in the ore-Internet, ultra-competitive NYC newspaper wars. Will pass along your good wishes.

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Ken Robbins
10/15/2015 07:35:08 am

My grandmother's brownstone @ 252 East Broadway had a shul on the first level rumn by a Mr Babitsky. I wonder if it is the same family who mentioned. If so, I would like to learn more about the soul

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